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4/17/2009

Words of Advice From a Father

As my eldest daughter has left home, I wanted to just give her a few pieces of advice in an email.  Here is some of what I wrote to her:

No matter how much someone craps on you, look them back in the eye, smile at them and tell them in a sweet voice that you care for them in some way.  In other words, kill them with kindness.  BUT if the relationship does not seem to be getting better, know when to cut your losses and move on in life.  Some people are hard to befriend and life is too short to dredge on with trying to establish a relationship with them.  But be sure that any bridge you decide to burn will not come back to bite you later in life.

We only have one life to live so live it honorably and be respectful of the people around you.  Always look out at the traffic passing you by and reflect on how each car has a person with their own lives, troubles and blessings.  This will keep you from feeling alone in the hard world you are about to venture out into. 

Take time to reflect on yourself, try to look inward when something does not go the way you want it to. Learn how to take criticism from yourself and others, but learn not to doubt your instincts as this is your most powerful tool.

Choose your heroes and peers wisely and look for positive mentoring from them. Surround yourself with the people that you feel you would like to be, as this will be positive reinforcement on who you will become.

With that always remember that God gave you two ears, two eyes and one mouth.  Listen and read more than you talk.  Listen to what people are saying and take in everything around you.  Try to never miss out on things that go on around you as you might miss that split second in time that will turn your life for the better or worse. 

Although its comforting to read fantasy literature, balance your reading out with non-fiction, educational and motivational information.  Always, always try learn something new, because if you ever feel like you know everything, then you really don't know much.

Broaden your vocabulary.  It has been found that the more words a person knows and use in their vocabulary the more successful they will be in life (silly but true). Try to stay away from sailor talk and learn to use un-offensive words to make your point.

And finally, learn from your past mistakes and acknowledge your successes.  We all sin and make mistakes.  Look for forgiveness and learn from what you have done.  When we fail, we learn.  That is how I learned how to write software.  I would try something new, it would blow up and then I would try to figure out why it blew up.  This is how I learned to program computers.  I educated myself from my mistakes.

Love Dad

4/09/2009

Looking for Inspiration

I look mostly to God for inspiration, but there are times when we as people don’t see his inspiration when He shows it to us.  I look to history, current events or the people around me to find inspiration outside of God’s word in the Bible, because I believe that He teaches us by example most of the time.

Sometimes when I am feeling down and/or frustrated about something in my life, I like to visit a website called Ted.comTed.com is a site filled with videos of people sharing their stories, feelings, beliefs and ideas.  We have to look for inspiration when it does not come looking for us.  This, at times, is the only way we can truly see God doing his handy work.

I encourage you that if you are looking for a three to five minute story to get your day started, a place I like to visit (I know there is more than this site) is the following:

http://www.ted.com <- look to the left navigation and choose your word of the day.

When to Care About What People Think About You

Okay God I am having a moment.  Normally I don’t care about what other people think about me but when You hit me upside the head and tell me to pay attention I do.  It is just really difficult when I figure out that people that I thought loved me and cared about me simply paste on a smile and pretend to enjoy my company.  So help me figure this out, let’s reflect:

Is it because I don’t fit in socially with their thought process or agree with their values or beliefs?

Is it because I am bald or because I have hair on my chest?

Is it because I am short and stocky or maybe just a little over weight?

Is it because I have blue eyes?  Big feet?

See I don’t understand why people who I want to have a relationship with have such a hard time hanging out with me.  I mean, is my dad right when he says I am too uptight and I need to relax more?

Is it because I don’t like to drink?

Oh hey, maybe its because I don’t like doing yard work or that I don’t like to do work around the house to make it more shiny then the other homes in my neighborhood.

Is it because I smoke?

Oh I know, its because I am still driving a minivan at the age of 39 and that is just un-cool.

Wait, is it because I develop computer software for a living and/or that I play computer games with my kids?

See I don’t understand why I feel so alone when I don’t want to play the social game of pretending to be someone or something that I am not.  I have values and beliefs that other people find disturbing.  But to be honest I am a very funny and an outgoing person.  Sure I can be a little over the top with my jokes and humor but that’s just who I am.  Up until my mother took her life, my humor is what made my mother happy.  She would look forward to the phone calls from me I made her laugh with my insanity, I gave her a way to dump her frustrations and concerns as I would listen and them make her laugh at what made her upset.  I know You know this, but I was her sunshine, I brought her laughter and warmth in her cold and lonely days of depression that she went through.  I miss her.

I digress.

See God, I feel that this is who You made me to be.  Happy, outgoing, excitable, humorous, loving, intelligent, hardworking, self motivated and honest.  So why don’t people like to be around me?

I know I have room to improve as a husband and father, but don’t we all?  I mean nobody is perfect when it comes to raising children or making your soul-mate happy,  but I really try to pay attention when You throw lessons my way.  I work to support my family not because I want to.  I try to encourage and motivate my children and wife with logic and beliefs that I try to derive from Your teachings.  Although maybe I don’t spend enough time with You and maybe I only look to You when things are going bad, I always try to push myself to do the honorable thing and ask myself the question, “What would the Son of God do in this situation?”.

So why is it that I have a hard time making friends?  Am I being too picky?  Am I picking the right people to befriend?  Am I looking in the wrong places for people to associate with?  God, I have no one to talk too besides You and my wife, but she can only take so much of me at times.  God I know You have a plan for me and I believe that You also have plans for my family, it can just get so lonely at times when I try not to care what other people think.  I am so tempted at times to try to just “fit in”.

Sometimes I think I am over analyzing what happens in my life and what happens around me.  Am I looking too hard for Your lessons?  Please let me know.

In closing, God, please bless everyone that I come in contact with every day and watch over them in their trials and tribulations in these hard times of the world.  Please listen for their cries when they also feel lonely and need someone to talk to.

Thanks for listening.

Amen!

4/07/2009

Definition of Honorable

In case anyone was wondering what a true definition of “honorable” is here is what Dictionary.com has. 

*NOTE*: There is more details on the web page, please click the word for a link to the page I reference.

Honorable

–adjective

  1. in accordance with or characterized by principles of honor; upright: They were all honorable men.
  2. of high rank, dignity, or distinction; noble, illustrious, or distinguished.
  3. worthy of honor and high respect; estimable; creditable.
  4. bringing honor or credit; consistent with honor.
  5. (initial capital letter)
    1. (used as a title of respect for certain ranking government officials.)
    2. British. (used as a title of courtesy for children of peers ranking below a marquis.) Abbreviation: Hon.

Now take that definition and try to pick someone that is in the public spot light and see if it applies to them.

Why Does Our President Never Take Responsibility

Is it me or does it seem like when ever things don’t go right for Mr. Obama that he plays the “name game”?  You know the game that our children play when one of them get into trouble.  “Nah uh, it was his/her fault!”, one child would say just to push blame on the sibling.  You know, Bush no longer holds his seat as President, granted he may have made some bad decisions, but the man was at least honorable in the way he handled grief from the media and his constituents.  Did you ever hear Bush lash out at people when they would poke fun at him, belittle him or insult him (ie shoe throwing incident in Iraq)?  No he would just shrug it off and move on with issues that were important.

Mr. Obama, maybe you should go through military boot camp with either the Marines, Army or Navy (Air Force is just too easy of a boot camp) to maybe learn what the true definition of honor, respect and team work really is.  As a matter of fact I think all of our government needs to go through boot camp, then maybe our country would not be so screwed up.

Just my two cents.

4/03/2009

Official Public Government Records

One of the things that upsets me is when people talk about something they have no idea about.  I hear and read alot where people claim a topic is not part of the Constitution of the United States of America that our forefathers had put in place for our country.  Here are the original documents where you can view the transcripts of the documents for easier reading.  Please, these are very important to you to understand as this is your country.
God Bless America

Congress.org – One stop shop for seeing how your Representatives are voting on for you

If you are like me, ever since the 2008 presidential election I have been consumed on what is happening in Washington and are country.  Most of all I am very interested in how the people I voted for that represent me and my family in Washington are doing their job(s).

Please visit http://www.congress.org to get more information.

3/06/2009

Letter from a Law Student - Read on Neal Boortz on 03/05/2009

This was a great letter that Neal read and I think it reflects on a lot of what is happening in the country today. He posted this on his blog but I also wanted to post it as I wanted to increase the hits on Google for the letter.

Link to Neal's Blog Post: http://boortz.com/nealz_nuze/2009/03/letter-from-a-law-student.html

Enjoy

Dear American liberals, leftists, social progressives, socialists, Marxists and Obama supporters,

We've stuck together since the late 1950s, but the whole of this latest election process has made me realize that I want a divorce. I know that we tolerated each other for many years for the sake of future generations, but sadly this relationship has run its course. Our two ideological sides of America cannot and just will not ever agree on what's right. So let's just end it right now while we can do it on friendly terms. We can smile, shake hands, chalk it up to irreconcilable differences and each go our own way.

So here's a model separation agreement.

Our two groups can equitably divide up the country by land mass, each taking a portion. That's going to be the difficult part, but I'm sure our two sides can come to a friendly agreement. After that, it should be relatively easy. Our respective representatives can effortlessly divide other assets since both sides have such distinct and disparate taste. We don't like redistributive taxes so you can have those. You are welcome to the liberal judges and the ACLU. And since you hate guns and you hate war, we'll take the firearms, the cops, the NRA and the military. You can keep Oprah, Michael Moore and Rosie O'Donnell. But you are going to be responsible for finding a biodiesel vehicle big enough to haul them around.

We'll keep the capitalism, the greedy corporations, the pharmaceutical companies; we will keep Wal-Mart and Wall Street. You can have the homeless, the homeboys, the hippies and illegal aliens. We will keep the hot Alaskan hockey moms, the greedy CEOS and all of the rednecks. We'll keep the Bibles and we'll let you have NBC and Hollywood.

You can be nice to Iran and Palestine and we'll retain the right to invade and hammer anybody that threatens us. You can have the peaceniks and the war protesters. When our allies or our way of life are under assault, we will provide them with security. You won't have to worry about it. We will keep our Judeo-Christian values. You are welcome to Islam, Scientology, Humanism and Shirley Maclaine. You can also have the UN, but we will no longer pay the bill.

We will keep the SUVs, the pickup trucks and the oversize luxury cars. You can have the compacts, the subcompacts and every Subaru station wagon you can find. You can give everybody healthcare, if you can find any practicing doctors. We will continue to believe that healthcare is a privilege and not a right. We will keep "The Battle Hymn of the Republic" and the national anthem, and I am sure you will be happy to substitute in their place "Imagine." I'd like to teach the world to sing "Kumbaya" or "We are the world." We will practice trickle-down economics and you can give trickle-up poverty your best shot. And since it so offends you, we will keep our history, our name and our flag.

Would you agree to this? If so, please pass it along other like-minded liberal and conservative patriots. And if you do not agree, just hit delete. In the friendly spirit of parting, I'll bet you ANWAR which one of us will need whose help in about 15 years.

Sincerely,

John J Wall

Law student and an American

P.S. You can also have Barbara Streisand and Jane Fonda

1/14/2009

A Letter from Your Boss

My father sent this to me via email.  I have to agree with him that even though the letter might be fictitious it pretty much hits dead on with our country's current situation.  Running a business in this country cost more money than maybe its worth.  But enough from me please read on.

To All My Valued Employees,

There have been some rumblings around the office about the future of this company, and more specifically, your job. As you know, the economy has changed for the worse and presents many challenges. However, the good news is this: The economy doesn't pose a threat to your job. What does threaten your job however, is the changing political landscape in this country.

However, let me tell you some little tidbits of fact which might help you decide what is in your best interests.

First, while it is easy to spew rhetoric that casts employers against employees, you have to understand that for every business owner there is a back story. This back story is often neglected and overshadowed by what you see and hear. Sure, you see me park my Mercedes outside. You've seen my big home at last years Christmas party. I'm sure; all these flashy icons of luxury conjure up some idealized thoughts about my life.

However, what you don't see is the back story.

I started this company 28 years ago. At that time, I lived in a 300 square foot studio apartment for 3 years. My entire living apartment was converted into an office so I could put forth 100% effort into building a company, which by the way, would eventually employ you.

My diet consisted of Ramen Pride noodles because every dollar I spent went back into this company. I drove a rusty Toyota Corolla with a defective transmission. I didn't have time to date. Often times, I stayed home on weekends, while my friends went out drinking and partying. In fact, I was married to my business -- hard work, discipline, and sacrifice.

Meanwhile, my friends got jobs. They worked 40 hours a week and made a modest $50K a year and spent every dime they earned. They drove flashy cars and lived in expensive homes and wore fancy designer clothes. Instead of hitting the Nordstrom's for the latest hot fashion item, I was trolling through the discount store extracting any clothing item that didn't look like it was birthed in the 70's. My friends refinanced their mortgages and lived a life of luxury. I, however, did not. I put my time, my money, and my life into a business with a vision that eventually, some day, I too, will be able to afford these luxuries my friends supposedly had.

So, while you physically arrive at the office at 9am, mentally check in at about noon, and then leave at 5pm, I don't. There is no "off" button for me. When you leave the office, you are done and you have a weekend all to yourself. I unfortunately do not have the freedom. I eat, and breathe this company every minute of the day. There is no rest. There is no weekend. There is no happy hour. Every day this business is attached to my hip like a 1 year old special-needs child. You, of course, only see the fruits of that garden -- the nice house, the Mercedes, the vacations... you never realize the back story and the sacrifices I've made.

Now, the economy is falling apart and I, the guy that made all the right decisions and saved his money, have to bail-out all the people who didn't. The people that overspent their paychecks suddenly feel entitled to the same luxuries that I earned and sacrificed a decade of my life for.

Yes, business ownership has is benefits but the price I've paid is steep and not without wounds.

Unfortunately, the cost of running this business, and employing you, is starting to eclipse the threshold of marginal benefit and let me tell you why:

I am being taxed to death and the government thinks I don't pay enough. I have state taxes. Federal taxes. Property taxes. Sales and use taxes. Payroll taxes. Workers compensation taxes. Unemployment taxes. Taxes on taxes. I have to hire a tax man to manage all these taxes and then guess what? I have to pay taxes for employing him. Government mandates and regulations and all the accounting that goes with it, now occupy most of my time. On Oct 15th, I wrote a check to the US Treasury for $288,000 for quarterly taxes. You know what my "stimulus" check was? Zero. Nada. Zilch.

The question I have is this: Who is stimulating the economy? Me, the guy who has provided 14 people good paying jobs and serves over 2,200,000 people per year with a flourishing business? Or, the single mother sitting at home pregnant with her fourth child waiting for her next welfare check? Obviously, government feels the latter is the economic stimulus of this country.

The fact is, if I deducted (Read: Stole) 50% of your paycheck you'd quit and you wouldn't work here. I mean, why should you? That's nuts. Who wants to get rewarded only 50% of their hard work? Well, I agree which is why your job is in jeopardy.

Here is what many of you don't understand ... to stimulate the economy you need to stimulate what runs the economy. Had suddenly government mandated to me that I didn't need to pay taxes, guess what? Instead of depositing that $288,000 into the Washington black-hole, I would have spent it, hired more employees, and generated substantial economic growth. My employees would have enjoyed the wealth of that tax cut in the form of promotions and better salaries. But you can forget it now.

When you have a comatose man on the verge of death, you don't defibrillate and shock his thumb thinking that will bring him back to life, do you? Or, do you defibrillate his heart? Business is at the heart of America and always has been. To restart it, you must stimulate it, not kill it. Suddenly, the power brokers in Washington believe the poor of America are the essential drivers of the American economic engine. Nothing could be further from the truth and this is the type of change you can keep.

So where am I going with all this?

It's quite simple.

If any new taxes are levied on me, or my company, my reaction will be swift and simple. I fire you. I fire your co-workers. You can then plead with the government to pay for your mortgage, your SUV, and your child's future. Frankly, it isn't my problem any more.

Then, I will close this company down, move to another country, and retire. You see, I'm done. I'm done with a country that penalizes the productive and gives to the unproductive. My motivation to work and to provide jobs will be destroyed, and with it, will be my citizenship.

So, if you lose your job, it won't be at the hands of the economy; it will be at the hands of a political hurricane that swept through this country, steamrolled the constitution, and will have changed its landscape forever. If that happens, you can find me sitting on a beach, retired, and with no employees to worry about....

Signed,

Your boss